I’m hitting the milestone of turning 30 today! So that calls for a listicle! In no particular order, here are 10 things my 30 years of living have taught me so far. If only I could go back in time and tell 15 year old me. But then again, what’s life without the lessons?
- Sometimes in life you just have to press the delete button on someone.
I remember reading this Nicole Richie quote in a magazine and thinking it was very wise advice from someone who starred on The Simple Life. I cut it out and hung it in my bedroom and it has stuck with me ever since. I used to be very slow to press the delete button on people. I’d give them second, third, fourth, … chances and I’d wonder why they kept on disappointing me (because I let them, duh!). Then I finally realized that life is too short to put time and energy in to people who aren’t worth it. Life is too short for one-way relationships, platonic or romantic! Delete, delete, delete. When it comes to friendships, less is more is definitely true for me!
- Elk pondje komt door het mondje.
This is a Dutch expression and one that my mom would often use when it came to weight loss. It means “every pound comes through the mouth” and it is so very simple yet so very true. You cannot out-exercise a bad diet. You can work out two hours a day, but that doesn’t mean you can eat whatever you like and still lose weight. If you don’t want to gain weight, don’t eat crap.
- The best cure for a break-up is time and tears (and wine and friends too of course).
Give it time, probably more time than you think you need, and allow yourself to cry and feel ALL the feels. Trying to get over someone too quickly and denying how you really feel about it will only make it take longer and hurt more. I once wasted too much time denying reality and denying how I really felt. I was extremely good at lying to myself. Unfortunately lies never last, especially not the ones you tell yourself. Accept that it’s over, accept that it hurts like hell and then remember that this too shall pass.
- You can change who you are to make people like you. But it won’t make you happy.
I used to think I had to be someone else in order for people to like me. So I changed how I acted and became that person. It worked, people liked me but I didn’t like me. So that was pretty pointless. I can’t believe it took me 18 years to figure that one out.
- Coconut oil is awesome.
Coconut oil has infiltrated my whole life and I love it. I eat it and I put it on my face, body and hair. I’ve only been using coconut oil for a few years but I already can’t imagine life without it. By the way, coconut water, coconut milk, coconut cream and coconut ice cream are damn delicious. Let’s take a minute to appreciate just how awesome coconuts are.
- A career is never enough.
I was once so naive that I actually believed that my job could give me all the fulfilment I needed. Hobbies, romance, and all that jazz were fine if they fit around my work schedule, but not worth prioritising. I was swept away by the high of doing a job that I loved and that I was good at. It gave me so many thrills I didn’t think I needed any others. But that couldn’t last, because being good is never enough, you constantly need to get better and do more. So I kept trying to get better and do more and I ended up working crazy hours and getting frustrated cause it didn’t give me any highs anymore. I felt empty and burned out. So I kicked my career off the top of my priority list and started putting hobbies, romance and all that jazz first. I don’t deliver the same results I used to, but I’m still good enough and that’s just fine for me.
- You have just one body, treat it accordingly.
If you treat your body like crap, it’ll give you crap. Don’t torture your feet in cheap high heels, don’t feed yourself junk, get enough sleep (easier said than done, I know!) and learn how to deal with stress. Your body will hopefully have to last for a couple more decades, so give it the best conditions possible.
- Mental health is just as important as physical health, maybe even more important.
Mental health was never something I talked about, or even thought about until a few years ago when I realised I had mental health problems. It was such a shock that something that was going on in my mind had such a huge impact on my life. Now I realise it makes total sense. Your brain controls your body, and so if something isn’t right in your brain it will affect your body and basically your entire life. So make sure you take time to look after your mental health as well as your physical health.
- Collect memories, not things.
I saw this for the first time on Pinterest a couple of years ago and it hit me, hard. I’m a bit of a shopaholic and it’s very hard for me to resist pretty things. But now it seems more like too much stuff just weighs me down. Sure, shopping is fun, but it’s never as fun as an amazing holiday or a day out and about with someone you love. Buy less, do more!
- It’s not about time, it’s about priorities.
If someone doesn’t have time for you, it means they don’t want to make time for you. It’s just that simple. For example, if someone chooses to work overtime during the weekend instead of spending time with you, their work is more of a priority. Of course there are always exceptions to this rule. But it’s generally a good one.